"Real Women Have Curves?"... No.

November 20, 2013

So. My name is Liz and this is my body:

I'm not thin. I'm not skinny.

I'm pretty curvy. I have a big butt, my legs are big in comparison to my upper body, and big natural boobies that can be very annoying at times.

I have lost over 100 pounds and I am pretty damn proud. 

However, I want to step on my soap box and say that I loathe the term "real women have curves". I heard women at work talking about it today and then I saw this article on "The Huffington Post". I hate the divide that is among women, a lot of it brought on by society and the media. I love women and I am all for "girl power". When I was in the cosmetics world, one of the best parts of the job I had was improving a woman's self esteem. I also enjoy promoting my girlfriends in every way I can. 

I see no point in jealously, cattiness, and most of a divide. We all need to lift each other up, not tear each other down. 

ALL women are beautiful. If you are thin, fit, slightly overweight, "skinny", and/or regular. The quote needs to read: "real women are who they are". We all come in different shapes and sizes, and we are ALL real women and beautiful.

In comparison to that, I don't like articles celebrating obesity. If you click the link I have above from "The Huffington Post" it has "regular" (and I use this term mocking, just look at the pictures" modeling in lingerie. Here is an example from the article:

I am not judging these women at all. I would be their friend in a heartbeat, I would support them, and they sre probably very intelligent, successful, goodhearted people - not to mention brave and confident. That alone is beautiful. I don't know what their story is or their struggles. 

However, being that much overweight with a significant amount of body fat is NOT healthy. This is not what we need to promote amongst ourselves and especially the youth. When I was 274 pounds in 2008, I felt depressed, fatigued, and down a LOT. I was very overweight. People would tell me to just "love the skin I was in", however, the skin I was in, was killing me. I was on the verge of heart problems, clogged arteries, and diabetes. That is not anything to celebrate. It will literally amaze you to see how many issues with our health that can be cured solely by being fit and healthy. 

Now that I have lost over 100 pounds, I feel like a brand new person and all of those potential diseases I could have had are gone, my physical and my health are in tip top shape. That is something to celebrate. That is beautiful. 

I say: "Real men AND women come in all different shapes and sizes. Real women are intelligent, confident, and know their self worth. Real women know that their outer appearance does not define them, but takes pride in their health."

Lets work on empowering one another and helping when we can. A divide amongst what is beautiful does no good for anyone.

To view another post on my view of women, jealously, and friendships click here..


  1. There is so much truth in what you say. If we could put the jealousy, cattiness, and drama aside. We would rule the world!! It's rare that women empower each other, it's usually the opposite and unfortunately we are probably all guilty of it to an extent, but this is a great reminder. Appreciate your honesty, and hard work!

  2. I totally agree women need to support each other and lift each other up.

    Not all people know how it feels to be overweight and uncomfortable.....and think everyone should be happy in their skin....thats easy to some yes but, I had a friend that was in this position while he was the happiest person I knew...he was very unhealthy w. diabetes and so many problems they told him he wouldn't make it to 30. he lost a ton of weight and is now as healthy as can be.

    I am not one to judge anyone but I feel if you've never been in that persons shoes, you don't know the pain they are going through but to be happy you need to be healthy!! You have to care for yourself and your body it is your temple and it needs to be taken care of!

    you look amazing btw :)

  3. I must admit, I struggle with this stuff too. I follow a gal named Golda who is all about the Health at Every Size movement. You can learn more about her here: http://www.bodylovewellness.com/about-golda/

    I'm still trying to formulate my thoughts. It's still really hard for me to equate health with obesity.

  4. It's honestly so important to take care of your body! I'm not judging anyone but unless you have a health problem or something where you can't help but be overweight, it's really sad that people lose control over something that can so easily be maintained.

    xo Mel
    turquoise blonde

  5. THANK YOU for this post! I'm built like a 12 year old boy. I DON'T have curves. I'm the opposite of curvy, I have a very straight body - tiny boobies, no waist, no hips. But, umm...I'm still a real woman. My body has it's flaws and strengths, but it's mine - it's healthy and beautiful. I don't like articles that celebrate obesity either, for health reasons and because they vilify those of us who have slimmer frames. They demand that we not critique their bodies, but lob all sorts of "too skinny" insults and judgments at the rest of us. Why can't we all just love and support one another?

  6. I LOVE this!!! You are so right!! I completely agree with everything you said girl! :)

  7. Thank you so much! This means a lot to someone like me who has been struggling to gain weight since age 15. It's really hurtful when people don't consider me a "real woman" because I eat everything in sight and still can't gain a pound.

    This post is phenomenal.

  8. this is beautiful! amen to that ^:)

  9. I totally agree!!!! I have never thought of that but you are totally right girlfriend!!!

  10. Totally agree girl!! I think more articles need to be about being healthy not skinny! I will always be the Kim K hourglass shaped girl but I will be as healthy as I can. Everyone is on a journey and everyone has to starts somewhere, women need to encourage and empower each other.

  11. This is always such a sticky subject. I am 6'1" so my body can hide weight really good but I know I am not a skinny girl and never will be (just genetics) and while I am not into the skinny articles (I am more of being healthy articles), I get annoyed at articles that celebrate being overweight. Do not get me wrong, we should love ourselves no matter what but unhealthy overweight is something that should be address. I am so glad you wrote this post because I think you are beautiful just the way you are girlie! :)

  12. This is so true! Real women do come in all shapes and sizes. In high school I was 5'8 and 120 pounds but I ate well and worked out so I was healthy even though my weight put me in the underweight category. Now I sit at a weight in the 'normal range' but I've slacked on my fitness and don't feel as good as I used to. Health is what we should celebrate, in whatever form that presents itself.

    P.S. You are gorgeous in your healthy body :)

  13. Well said girl! I know that I feel a lot better about myself when I look my best. And that requires effort (which as of late I need to put a lot more effort into!)

  14. Totally agree! Curves are great, but obese rolls are not curves. And I think the female body is amazing - totally agree, there is no judgement toward these women. They are beautiful, but you're right, a healthy lifestyle is balance between physical and mental.

  15. Thank you! I hate when people give themselves an excuse to be overweight and unhealthy. You don't have to be a stick, but for God sakes, please work on being healthy.


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